Your bestie. Your pal. Your bud. Your squad. Whatever your moniker, having friends connects us with a special kind of kindred spirit that in most cases we didn’t even know we needed.
Whether they’re from shared experiences, common interests, or having similar goals, your friends are in your life for a reason, and you theirs.
But what happens when or if the friendship starts to fizzle?
Interests change, goals diverge, life transitions unfold, and suddenly that list of shared experiences starts to dwindle. I’ve found it to be especially true in your 20’s when things are still shifting left and right as you’re likely trying to perfect that adulting thing.
The juggle is real and so is the realization that relationships take commitment and nurturing if you want them to last. When those two things are mis-alignedalign, the heartache can be difficult. This is especially true if you’re trying to reframe or rekindle lapsed friendships.
One thing I’ve found is that if you can shift your perspective from what you feel to one that sheds beyond what’s immediately in front of you, it can help heal the space left open from your friendship circle.
I know, it sounds waaay too good to be true, but our mind is a powerful thing. Whether friendships can pick up where they left off or whether the door has closed for good, it’s important for our well being that we not hold onto bad friendship juju. For each encounter leaves an imprint, and it’s up to us to decide its place in our life.
Besides, as the Bible says in Ecclesiastes 3:1-8, “For everything there is a season, a time for every activity under heaven.”