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Breaking Up With Friends

June 24, 2020 2 min read 8 Comments

Your bestie. Your pal. Your bud. Your squad. Whatever your moniker, having friends connects us with a special kind of kindred spirit that in most cases we didn’t even know we needed. 

Whether they’re from shared experiences, common interests, or having similar goals, your friends are in your life for a reason, and you theirs. 

But what happens when or if the friendship starts to fizzle?

Interests change, goals diverge,  life transitions unfold, and suddenly that list of shared experiences starts to dwindle. I’ve found it to be especially true in your 20’s when things are still shifting left and right as you’re likely trying to perfect that adulting thing. 

The juggle is real and so is the realization that relationships take commitment and nurturing if you want them to last. When those two things are misaligned align, the heartache can be difficult. This is especially true if you’re trying to reframe or rekindle lapsed friendships.  

One thing I’ve found is that if you can shift your perspective from what you feel to one that sheds beyond what’s immediately in front of you, it can help heal the space left open from your friendship circle.

I know, it sounds waaay too good to be true, but our mind is a powerful thing. Whether friendships can pick up where they left off or whether the door has closed for good,  it’s important for our well-being that we not hold onto bad friendship juju. For each encounter leaves an imprint, and it’s up to us to decide its place in our life.

Besides, as the Bible says in Ecclesiastes 3:1-8, “For everything, there is a season, a time for every activity under heaven.”

Have you had to breakup with any friends?


  • June 25, 2020 at 9:53 am

    I had to break up with a former best friend because it was a toxic relationship. It was over 20 years ago. We have recently reconnected, but it is just once a year that we see each other.

    • annaelleliz June 25, 2020 at 6:29 pm

      I think that’s so cool how y’all were able to reconnect! Sometimes it’s better to keep friends you break up with at a distance then hopefully reconnect when the time is right!

  • LisaFavre June 25, 2020 at 8:58 am

    I’ve had my fair share of friendship breakups but sometimes, you need it to grow. There’s one in particular that really hurt but it was a lot of lessons learned.

    • annaelleliz June 25, 2020 at 6:28 pm

      I completely understand! It’s all lessons learned but boy does it hurt to think back on it sometimes!

  • mriveraediblesense June 24, 2020 at 3:47 pm

    I break up with anyone who I can’t feel vulnerable around. No need to surround yourself with people who make you feel bad.

    • annaelleliz June 25, 2020 at 6:27 pm

      Isn’t that the truth! Having positive and encouraging people in your corner is just so much better!

  • Mimi June 24, 2020 at 3:42 pm

    I definitely agree, I had to break up with my former best friend because I didn’t like the person I was with her

    • annaelleliz June 25, 2020 at 6:27 pm

      It’s so hard to make those decisions but so glad you were able to see that you weren’t the best version of yourself!

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